Like the strength of the sun as the seasons change grief can soften and burn with intensity from one moment to the next. During those intense moments a strength like no other comes to the surface and holds space with the pain.
When your path changes so dramatically overnight how do you move, shape, morph into a new version of yourself? You after tragedy….
Resilience, how to pick yourself up when being swallowed by pain. I can’t say you bounce back, move on, or ever get over it. You rise, fall and experience intense moments of both joy and sorrow. It becomes your constant companion woven into your being.
I can say my constant companion has awakened me from complacency, the fog of merely going through the motions of life. I find joy in the smallest of moments and at times it takes my breath away. The things I took for granted come to the forefront and I stop, immerse myself and find gratitude in that space.
I have found myself drawn to and others drawn to me by the common thread of grief. That instant connection with someone and not until the connection deepens do you both realize loss has brought you together. The powerful bond of shared loss in search of empathy and a level of understanding.
Everyone experiences loss in their own way, even with commonalities, no ones is the same. I will never truly understand another’s pain however in sharing my experience hope to provide insight to healing.
I believe how you respond to tragedy determines your path. My reality is to move through life with eyes wide open to the wonder and joy.
I am no longer part of the human arrogance, being oblivious to the expiry date we all have in this life. The illusion of having more time. The drive for more money and materialistic items. The constant noise of busyness.
I find when I allow the busyness of the world to surround me I become scattered, moody, anxious, and withdrawn.
In stillness I find my connection with nature and my spirit. In that silence I become more aware, taking in the smallest of details which surround me.
What would happen if you sat in stillness right now?
In this world of constant noise I challenge you to sit in silence and see where it takes you.
Share your experience with me.
Blessings and Much Aloha…
Redefining Grief 